The Ugly

The good, the bad, and the ugly; that's how I've occasionally rated relationships. It is easy to lay out the territory on the bad and the ugly - people who abuse you, use you and leave scars.  An unfairly large percentage of time gets spent discussing them while you sit at the bar on a lonely night. …

Waiter!

Spending time as a waitstaff member is not a bad way to learn about people. You see them at their best and when things are not going well for them. Working as a waiter one summer at a resort hotel, I had the opportunity to watch a lovely couple go from dedicated to each other …

Flash Back Friday : originally posted on June 21, 2020

Suggestions The suggestion was that I learn the more popular songs and add some rock to my gig. Then I'd be like everyone else I suggested back. Yes, she said. That would be a great idea. As you are, she suggested... it's out of step with the world. Bend a bit, stop all this talk …

Virginia Woolf?

When I was younger, I was the dumpee more often than the dumper. Depending on your perspective, my girlfriends either had the sense or the strong desire to terminate relationships that "weren't going anywhere."Looking back, I am both grateful and not the least ambivalent about that turn of events. Many of the women I was …

Influence

I appear to be a rather insouciant type of guy. Not the sort to be overly bothered by a small piece of gristle in his filet mignon. But, like most of us, I consider my life to be precisely that; mine.

Relationships

While in the Navy, I served with a former professional bull rider named John. He described a bull ride as the most dangerous eight seconds in sports.

Facebook Endings

Endings can be full of angst or be quiet fadeaways.