Daily writing prompt
When you were five, what did you want to be when you grew up?
It’s not so much what I wanted to be at five, but it was the developmental rush between say five and ten. I went from being five and on top of the world on my red scooter, to being six to ten and gradually becoming a dedicated anti-authoritarian. Baby steps?
Nope. Sister Marguerite De Sade and her Sisters of Perpetual Pain. You know. Old fashioned Parochial school – spare the rod and spoil the child. Except I wasn’t bashful about retaliatory strikes. The dear sister’s ankles bore many scars from my kicks. Hit me, and get kicked! Eventually, I was exiled to public school. It was the first time I was called incorrigible.
Boss?
Those early events had a lasting effect on me and set me on a path of anti-authoritarian behavior and belief. But it not only had an effect on how I behaved towards authority, but it also affected how I behaved when I eventually became a boss, led team and community efforts. I was the cheerleader-type boss, trying for successful team efforts. I really was disgusted by the thought that now I had power, and it was my “turn” to make people miserable. Yuck! That didn’t mean that I couldn’t enforce discipline when needed, but it did mean that I preferred persuasion to force. Besides, as an anthropologist working on community projects, Sister Marguerite’s tactics would have landed me in jail!
About ninety-five percent of the time, I could make my approach work, persuade, lead by example, and then, if needed, use the force of the community to bring dissident elements in line. Well, you say what about the remaining five percent? OK, here we go. Not everyone is a team player, wants to get along, work hard, and some even like being disruptive and destructive. To them, encroaching on another person’s personal space or efforts is fun.
Eventually, you happen on someone like that. I’ve found that most times, the individual has a past. It’s not only you he, or she, irritates – it’s the rest of the group as well. That’s where your team and community-building efforts pay off. The community is interested in the success of the effort or program. Sometimes I was able to tap the team for ways to get effort out of the dissected. In one case, he was a lifelong member of the community, and suggestions were made to me about what duties he’d be best at and would like.
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
The sad thing about leadership is that you can’t always get results with the disaffected through reasonable behavior, and allowing them to run rampant can weaken your efforts for a successful project. You can’t be bashful about enforcing your authority. But you also can’t be an undisciminating ashole about how you enforce it either.
When I worked at UPS, I had a senior Teamster who did good work, but would slack off if I wasn’t watching. He’d also toss packages around. That was an issue, and I had to warn him about this daily.
He’d scream and yell, dance, sing odd songs, and curse at me after I’d warned him. I adopted an irritating habit of smiling widely at him when he did this little routine. He grew infuriated one day and threw a package at me. The physical assault got him fired. After apologies and assurances of good behavior, the union was able to get him his job back. But I now had power over him, a repetition, or further discipline issues could complicate his job, and security at UPS. I made it clear to him when he returned to our team that the only thing I expected from him was to do his job. He didn’t like me, but he now respected me if only because he knew I could disrupt his life worse than he could mine.
I had very good relationships with the other Teamsters on my team. They knew I had their back, respected them, valued them as individuals, and would support them in any way possible.
Things Sister Marguerite Never Knew
So, getting back to Sister Marguerite and the Sisters of Perpetual Pain. What they didn’t know about people and leadership could fill an encyclopedia. Rather than start with ultimate sanctions, you learn a little leadership. I’m not so egotistical as to think that my style is the best or only style. But a teacher should invest some time in developing a leadership style that doesn’t start with coercion and end with violence.
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