It’s important to know when to lie low. For example, not engage in an argument.
Actually, I guess it’s not even an argument -if you don’t listen to the other side. It’s a lecture.
” But this is not an argument. We’re just discussing this.”, the other person will say. Calling it a discussion when only one side gets heard is not a discussion; if you are continually talked over, it’s an assault. So there is a restriction placed on who gets heard and who is listened to.
You don’t have to be amenable to the downright ridiculous; learn how not to be drawn into someone else’s need for instant gratification. It’s not a discussion, it’s a diatribe- an angry critical and abusive speech.
Refusing this type of contest is not losing; it’s winning.
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It sounds like you’ve had experience.
It took a while for the lessons to sink in.
I argue both sides of things inside my head if I am upset about something. It can be months before I am ready to discuss it with the person who triggered it. Or even never, if it hurt enough. I always want to forgive first. Then find out if reconciliation will happen.
The issue of reconciliation is a rocky shore.
I appreciate your approach to having internal dialogues, and you may be wiser than most to keep them internalized. I for good or ill find that internal dialogue only takes me so far. I am amazed at what happens when I either put it in writing or speak it out loud. And that’s where I get in trouble. Thinking out loud is dangerous when your thoughts are all over the place. In doing those I sometimes offend. Your approach may result in less trauma.
I often work feelings out by writing poems. I wondered why I don’t cry with some of them. I tried reading them aloud and OH, there the emotion is. It was interesting trying to record some of my poems for the site, I had to do more than one try for some. The emotions came right up.
It’s interesting to see and feel, what happens when you cross a commentary over from one media to another. Sometimes it intensifies effects and meaning, and sometimes you see things in it that you didn’t initially suspect were there. You mention recording and making it audio., In changing over to the acoustic you go from being an active creator to being the active listener, and that’s a very different role.
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